Before You Say Yes Part II

Welcome to Before You Say Yes Part II, where it’s all about restoring sanity to your life by getting control of your calendar! If you haven’t already read Part I, stop and do so now.
Otherwise, let’s check in:
If you’ve answered no to any of Questions 1-3, lovingly but gently break the news that, while you’d love to help, they’ll have to find another victim. Uh sorry . . . I meant person.
If you’ve answered yes to at least two of Questions 1-3, move on to Question #4. This opportunity could be for you.

Question #4. Do I want to do it?  Yeah, I realize this is a tricky one. Why? Because some of us have never even given ourselves permission to think about what we want, let alone set up situations to actually do what we want. But when we get our life purpose, vision and plans in line with God’s heart, we position ourselves for that exact set up. God actually honors what we want, because it’s in line with what He wants. So take a deep breath and ask yourself, “Is this something I want to do?”

“Do what the Lord wants, and he will give you your heart’s desire.”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭37:4‬ ‭

Question #5. What would have to be sacrificed in order for me to do this? Am I willing to make the sacrifice(s)?
One of the first rules of living an Irresistible Life is recognizing that everything has an opportunity cost. Time is a finite resource. Taking that extra assignment at work might give you more money, but it means less time for relationships. What’s a woman to do? (That values clarification would be really helpful right about now.) Whether we realize it or not, saying yes to one thing often means saying no to something else. Women committed to living an Irresistible Life assess every commitment in light of its opportunity cost. You’ll either sacrifice for the life you want or the life you want becomes the sacrifice. Chose prayerfully and carefully.

“But don’t begin until you count the cost. For who would begin construction of a building without first calculating the cost to see if there is enough money to finish it?”
‭‭Luke‬ ‭14:28‬


Question #6. If I don’t do this, who else can?
If your answer to either Questions 4 or 5 was “no,” then it’s time to pass. When presented with a request, women often battle guilt if they can’t fulfill it. If we are able to muster up the courage to decline, we usually go into “fix it” mode, racking our brains for who else could possibly do it. Let’s get clear: Who’s responsibility is it to find someone else if you can’t? NOT. YOURS. (That right there should set you free.) However, assessing who else might be positioned for the opportunity will help you do two things: (1) conquer any residual guilt from saying no and (2) realize that there are very capable others who can step in when you can’t, Wonder Woman. Now just put that cape away until further notice.

“No one will ever ask you to complete your top priorities. They will only ask you to complete theirs.” Carey Nieuwhof

I hope these six questions help you eliminate distractions and get focused on the right stuff so you can live a more fulfilling and impactful life. If you want to discover your life purpose, clarify your values or develop a strategic plan for crushing your key goals, head over to for more on living The Irresistible Life. 



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